Adult Leadership Approach
Traditional Leadership Approach
Linear VS System
The complexities that we face today require individuals and organizations to be increasingly aware of each person individually and each element in the organization. Instead of simply leading from the front, student and adult leaders need to connect with members of their teams and organizations in a way that has never been required before.
Increasing Abundance as the Goal, Self Leadership should get easier over time if values are aligned
Result - Cost = Benefit
Natural Abundance
Physical - The body heals itself when time is allowed and toxins are removed.
Mental - The mind always works to solve difficult problems even in your sleep. https://youtu.be/FARXrLsBNJY
Emotional - Our heart naturally loves as children until we learn ways not to.
Acute VS Chronic Success
There is no quick pill, or destination for our success as leaders and student leaders. Especially with the emotionally volatile state we find in high school sports and activities. Gradual processes embraced with conviction will bring long term success that will get easier, or Chronic Success.
Chronic Success® Simple Abundance Cycle
Awareness
Vision, Info/Knowledge, Truth, Focus, Clarity
Aligning Action
Simplified, Hopeful Movement
Victories Validate, Failures Inform
Allowing Abundance through Autonomy
Requires patience & minimizing “Self Sabotage”
Autonomy provides space for participation from others, the key to long-term success
Where to start the process?
Core Self (True Self)
Daily Mindfulness (Self Awareness)
Physical, Mental, and Emotional Balance creates natural abundance
Start each day centered…
I AM Enough
I HAVE Enough
I have ALREADY ARRIVED
Connections (Transactions)
Invite Connections by OFFERING VALUE
See the other person, without judgement
“Not good or bad, just informative”Allow them space to respond authentically
Community (Tribe)
Don’t feed negative relationships
Serve ALL relationships in the community
Being centered gives others permission to see themselves and adjust
Starting Point - Your “Self” (Core Self)
Parts VS “Core Self” - Self awareness as a leader is the only real starting point. How do you handle emotional situations?
Parts
90/10 Principle: We only consciously use 10% of our brains. What is the 90% that is unused?
Like computer programs in the background taking resources and effecting results even though they aren’t seen.
2 Types
Exiles (Trauma) - Everyone experiences trauma. It is a highly emotional experience without a lot of understanding. The mind naturally works to hide the resulting memories & emotions.
Managers (Coping) - The mind uses distraction, judgement, confusion to keep us from being aware of the results of previous experiences that are uncomfortable (Trauma).
“Core Self”
This resulting state that we can experience is truly who we are.
Allows FLOW:
In positive psychology, a flow state, also known colloquially as being in the zone, is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by the complete absorption in what one does, and a resulting transformation in one's sense of time.
Disconnecting from triggered parts and “centering yourself” in your Core Self results in (8 Cs)...
Calmness
Clarity
Compassion
Curiosity
Confidence
Courage
Creativity
Connectedness
Simplified…
You ARE Enough
You HAVE Enough
You Have Already ARRIVED
Connections (Transactions)
Leadership is Sales: Successful leadership is more about inspiring others to follow you based on the benefit they receive than it is commanding them to follow you because of the benefit you receive (job or title).
Cost Benefit Analysis
Result - Cost = Benefit, Profitable Relationships are Profitable Transactions.
Everyone is attracted to what they see as “Profitable” future engagement naturally. ROI indicates future desires.
When a leader is centered, or operating from their “Core Self”, they are aware of the real benefit and actual cost of a situation. They can see how to strengthen the connection very easily.
Relationships (Business, Leadership, Love)
Choice, NOT Control: Do not attempt to control more than your part of the connection. Own your 50%, 100%. When people feel they don’t have a choice there is a natural opposition that is triggered. Therefore, Choice not NEED, is the power.
Community (Tribe)
Culture is a result of many interactions, not a single action
Organizations / Teams / Families
Automated Abundance - Organizational “Flow”, when takes on a life of its own